A powerful tool that we have and we may be misusing can be revitalized through a simple habit: “eye contact”, in the diverse situations that a relationship offers us, from moments of verbal silence, but which may contain endless wealth of expression, up to when, in conversation, trying to “talk” also with the eyes and, mainly in moments of intense expression of emotions, from moments of great pleasure to moments of great divergence and possibility of discussion.
In such situations, eye contact takes us out of the capsule of egocentrism and helps to create a new bridge which may take us to the other side and give us a different vision, like the vision of one who is on the other side (of the bridge).
The eyes, windows to our souls, can make emerge good feelings or positive registers, and radiate an energy that can be understood as “energy of solution”, if used as instruments to make us understand, perceive and express.
The absence of eye contact produces a monologue between two persons. Both of them speak, but neither one listens.
The practice of eye to eye, the simple and effective eye contact has the power of transforming relationships.
A look can give strength, can invigorate, or can lessen sorrows. A look can turn the direction to be followed, and, whenever it is used with honesty, it takes us to the solution.
Many solutions are preventive, as they eliminate the root of problems which could create much erosion in relationships and, at any rate, they would be reinforcing habits such as discussing, seeing flaws and such, so ordinary and yet so harmful for relationships.
To look with feelings and to express with the eyes means to see.
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Author: Herbert Santos
Source: http://listeningtothestars.com
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